So let’s use the names Angela and Martin. This is based on a true story (I have a source lol). Angela and Martin break up in January for perfectly clear reasons. However six months later, Angela sees Martin at an event. This is not the first time, post-relationship, that Angela and Martin have seen each other. And like the rest of the times Angela has seen Martin, she’s still attempting to fix his tie, trying to give him hugs (hugs that do not leave room for the Holy Spirit), and she’s still referring to him as ‘bae.’
I cannot relate to Angela. I do not understand Angela. And I wish I could take on the role of being Angela’s friend. So I could affirm Angela, until she recognises her worth.
‘Angela, Martin does not want you. Martin is not thinking about you or losing sleep over you. Angela you can do better than someone who does not want you. Even if that better is being alone and treating yourself with the respect you deserve, and not allowing anyone to enter your space and treat you less deserving than you are.’
Ladies and gentleman can we please show ourselves some respect after break-ups. It’s a decision; your decision. You can either stay down, stay clinging to the past or you can rise, move on, glow and allow them to realise how fabulous of an individual you are still (even after you’ve broken up).
If you’re being an Angela, do you really believe that Martin is going to ever going to regret his decision? If you still love them and want them back, do you think they’re ever going to want you back if you don’t even know your worth? And if you’re essentially begging for them back, how do you think they’re going to treat you if they did decide take you back? (Desperation will never look cute! Do you know what is cute? Individuals with a dose of self-care). If you want them back, approach it like an adult and have a conversation about it.
Stop being an Angela! Stop choosing to stay broken! You are a queen or a king!
‘Angela? The next time you see Martin, show him indifference. Be polite, don’t be clingy, be nice, treat them like you’re past (that’s exactly what they are), even your past should be given respect. Show him that you know your worth, show him that you respect yourself too much to let him treat you like rubbish.’
You are not the first person that has been through an break-up. You will most certainly not be the last. If others have coped and have put themselves back together, so can you! Just remember, you never know what God might be saving you from.